Ever wondered how maintaining a positive attitude can shape your daily life and relationships? Join us on this engaging episode of the Big Dog Podcast as my son Logan and I share personal stories and valuable insights on self-reliance, confidence, and handling life's challenges. From Logan's exciting developments in photography to our recent upgrade to a new podcast recording platform, we catch up on some significant events and reflect on the importance of self-awareness and growth. Plus, hear all about my expanding tattoo collection and the surprising return of Logan's sister, Jenna.
In this episode, we delve into how our attitudes influence our experiences and the power of focusing on current progress. We'll explore the concept of viewing setbacks as opportunities for growth and the critical role of self-talk and supportive social circles. By sharing candid personal struggles and triumphs, we highlight the importance of controlling our responses to external factors and appreciating the present moment. Whether you're facing external negativity or striving for personal improvement, our conversation offers practical advice and encouragement to help you navigate life's ups and downs with resilience and a positive mindset. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that promises to inspire and motivate!
Ever wondered how maintaining a positive attitude can shape your daily life and relationships? Join us on this engaging episode of the Big Dog Podcast as my son Logan and I share personal stories and valuable insights on self-reliance, confidence, and handling life's challenges. From Logan's exciting developments in photography to our recent upgrade to a new podcast recording platform, we catch up on some significant events and reflect on the importance of self-awareness and growth. Plus, hear all about my expanding tattoo collection and the surprising return of Logan's sister, Jenna.
In this episode, we delve into how our attitudes influence our experiences and the power of focusing on current progress. We'll explore the concept of viewing setbacks as opportunities for growth and the critical role of self-talk and supportive social circles. By sharing candid personal struggles and triumphs, we highlight the importance of controlling our responses to external factors and appreciating the present moment. Whether you're facing external negativity or striving for personal improvement, our conversation offers practical advice and encouragement to help you navigate life's ups and downs with resilience and a positive mindset. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that promises to inspire and motivate!
Speaker 1:
Because the loudest voice you hear and I've said this on the show before the loudest voice you hear is your own voice. And when the world is shitting on you and your friends are shitting on you and your family's shitting on you and everybody's coming at you, the only person to keep you up out of the bullshit is you. You, what's up? Everybody? Welcome back to the big dog podcast. I'm josh wilson. I'm in here with my main dude, logan, my son. What's up, son? What up? Miss? You haven't seen you in a bit yeah, like a week.
Speaker 1:
I think I know, and then it's gonna be another week, it'll be two weeks you get back monday or monday afternoon. Cool, I'll be back. So how's? How do I sound? Do I sound all right? Yeah, we got our new makeshift studio set up and trying to make sure everything sounds okay for the people. Yeah, good, all right. What have you been up to since? Sure, everything sounds okay for the people?
Speaker 2:
Yeah, good, all right. What have you been up to since? I've been gone Practicing the pictures and just trying to get better or learn more of the Riverside stuff, so the podcast can look a little better Quality Nice.
Speaker 1:
Nice, everybody. We are using a new format for capturing, particularly our remote podcasts, where either our guests aren't in studio or if I'm traveling, and we weren't happy with the quality of how things were coming through the last couple months, and so we've changed vendors that we're using and really excited about this new product and opportunity and how it's going to present to you, and so we're excited to see how it goes. So hopefully you're noticing some changes, guys, as you're watching the show. If you're listening, you won't really notice much of a difference at all, but if you're a fan of watching or you follow us on social media, hopefully you'll be seeing changes and those changes you believe are a big improvement. I know that I'm hoping to see a big improvement. So nice. So working on photography, meeting up with the teams, figuring out Riverside that's pretty cool, learning a lot of new stuff Yep, nice.
Speaker 2:
I like your shirt. Thanks Me too. This guy, when I walked in today, asked if I was a Longhorn fan.
Speaker 1:
Nah, son, we're a Team JW fan. Got that done while I'm out here. Yeah, it looks sick. It's pretty good. I'll tell you. The inside of the arm, little spicy, yeah, it seems like a more sensitive area. Getting some work done back here today, nice, so excited about it. I don't want to say I'm addicted, but I would say in 45 years I had zero tattoos and since january I have two, three, four, five. This will be the sixth one after today and it's not like yeah, you know, one a month.
Speaker 1:
They're averaging a little like 1.2 a month. And the thing that's funny is let's talk to somebody like oh, I've got like 15 tattoos and they started showing them to me and they're all like these itty bitty, like little things, right? I don't know how many tattoos does that count as right? Like Is each one of those dots a tattoo? Is each one of those letters a tattoo? What I don't know. I like it, though I get lots of compliments on it. So what else has been going on?
Speaker 2:
Not much. Jenna got home today or last night.
Speaker 1:
Oh boy, yeah, she scared Mom this morning. Mom had just let the dogs in from feeding them and was giving them water and like 30 seconds later the garage door opened and it was jenna. Scared the crap out of her, but she was going to work out at the gym. So it's good stuff. You excited. Yeah, y'all made it first year down.
Speaker 2:
It's pretty dope, you look thrilled. Yeah, she's doing summer school. Uh, thomas nelson, I believe. Nice, all right boy, you look so stressed out. Nope, good, you just checking. Yeah, she's doing summer school at Thomas.
Speaker 1:
Nelson, I believe Nice, all right Boy, you look so stressed out. Nope, good you.
Speaker 2:
Just checking all the buttons I got to look down here, but the camera's up here, so I'm like looking down the whole time.
Speaker 1:
You're working All right. Well, let me jump in and talk a little bit. Guys, I want to talk today and this is something I struggle with. I think I'm getting better with it, but I struggle with it, and I think everybody does from time to time. But our attitudes are so, so important and our attitudes play so much into how not just how our days go, but how our relationships go, how our lives go. My son would tell you. Anybody who knows me would tell you. I'm not known for always having the best attitude. I can be very aggressive, I can be short-tempered. I look angry 99% of the time, even though I'm really not angry most of the time. Right, logan, I'm not genuinely an angry person, I just have. They call it resting bitch face, rbf, which I think is super rude to women, because I've probably got the worst case of RBF, like they call it, ras, raf resting asshole faces. I guess if you're a dude, I don't know. Either way, it's not nice, but I got it and I could be having the best day in the world. I'm sitting there like this you're so stressed
Speaker 1:
people like dude, what's wrong? Like nothing. I just want a million dollars. You know, that's just how I look and and it is what it is. I'm always thinking about something and focused on something. And you know, the thing is, while I don't I'm not known for always being bubbly and happy. That's interesting. I wonder if it's going to be. And, guys, this is the first time using this software, so I'm just going to talk through it as we're doing it. I keep it real on here, so it'll be interesting to see Logan, if the blur it just did is actually on the final. That was weird. I don't know what that was about. Yeah, so anyway, we're going to find out.
Speaker 1:
So anyway, you know, while I look frustrated or angry or pissed, like, genuinely I am a happy person, I am not a peaceful person Like I'm. I don't know. And what I mean by not being a peaceful person is it is rare that I feel at peace. You know, it's one day I hope to. I hope to create an environment and a life where I feel peace. When I'm with my wife, I feel peace when I'm with my kids. Most of the time, particularly as they're older, I feel a sense of peace, but it's always momentary. As soon as they're away from me, there isn't peace, and I think that's me. I don't necessarily think it's environmental, I just don't. I'm not a peaceful person. There's always something up, always something going on. Now, not being a peaceful person doesn't mean I'm a violent person, doesn't mean like I'm about chaos. I just I always feel there's something to be done, there's something to be improved, there's something that needs to be worked on, and so rarely do I find myself at peace.
Speaker 1:
While I don't always have the best attitude or I can appear to be aggressive, I am always very confident, I am always very optimistic, and what I mean by that is challenges don't scare me, challenges don't wreck me. Challenges do not hold me down. Challenges do not cause me to quit. Challenges do not cause me to make decisions out of fear. Problems and challenges do not necessarily make me change my plans or my vision or my mission. I see problems and challenges and events that may not be what I had hoped as opportunities to learn and to grow and maybe improve processes that I'm currently going through. Maybe how I envisioned something happening isn't happening exactly how I envisioned it, and as circumstances arise, it's like oh, it wasn't exactly how I envisioned it. A lot of times, people will just quit and they will stop working towards that dream, working towards that goal, working on that relationship, because it's not going exactly how they had hoped or envisioned it would go, whereas me I'm just like, okay, address the problem, figure it out. How do we continue to move forward towards that, whatever?
Speaker 1:
And man, every day I feel like I'm talking to people that just generally have a shit attitude and they're going through stuff and it's tough, and I understand going through things. I go through shit all the time. Everybody does. No one's alone in that. No one's isolated.
Speaker 1:
Like trouble doesn't just focus on one person. Everybody I know has troubles. Everybody I know has shit that they struggle with. It's not unique to you. The world isn't just shitting on you, but, man, it sure is about your attitude and how you respond to it and how you deal with it.
Speaker 1:
Though, and more people get so hung up on woe is me, or this and that and the fucking economy and politics and blah, blah, blah bullshit, rather than focusing on what they can actually control and do. And they don't credit enough, they do not give enough credit to what saying shit like that does to their reality. They're taking shit that are hypotheticals and they're fucking up their reality because they are so focused on negative bullshit, like everybody who's suffering and struggling because of the economy or because of the current political climate or because you know, you know they they ate bad chicken because, like everybody was complaining over whatever thing is happening to them, that shit is happening to everybody and you've got winners and losers all these things. Winners are having to deal with economic bullshit also. Winners and successful people are having to deal with the same political climate as losers.
Speaker 1:
Stop talking to yourself like you're a loser. Stop convincing yourself that you deserve to lose. We got to stop doing that, because the loudest voice you hear and I've said this on the show before the loudest voice you hear is your own voice. And when the world is shitting on you and your friends are shitting on you and your family's shitting on you and everybody's coming at you, the only person to keep you up out of the bullshit is you you. It's not how other people perceive your attitude, it's how you receive your attitude. How do you talk to yourself? What are you filling your mind with? And if it's always chaos and always a struggle and always a problem, how's that? How's that Taylor Swift song go, logan, I don't shake it off, no, but hey, that would be a good one too, though I don't know.
Speaker 1:
What's the one that I'm the problem, it's me? I don't really listen to that. It's me. I'm the problem, it's me. That's how one of them things goes, something like that it's more your thing? I don't know.
Speaker 2:
It is.
Speaker 1:
I got Tay-Tay playing 24-7. Yeah Well, you know, asshole husband, it's not your cheating wife, it's not like the person that you choose to keep going back to, who is uber negative in your, in your relationship and is toxic for you, and you keep going back over and over and over again. None of these people are the problem. You're the problem. You're the problem. Your husband of all these years is a total asshole and he speaks to you poorly, mistreats you never, honors you, never loves you, never is caring. It's just always just being an asshole. And I'm not saying physically, it's just not a joy to be around and just sucks, like okay, he sucks, you don't got to be with him. You know your wife total pain in the ass, no matter what you do, nothing's right. Just wearing you out constantly, never supportive of you, never encouraging what you do, nothing's right, just wearing you out constantly, never supportive of you, never encouraging of you, never believing in you. Yeah, it's terrible. I wouldn't want to deal with that.
Speaker 1:
My biggest hype man is my wife and I need that. I need that support. I need that encouragement. I can't be me without it. I need my kids to acknowledge that I'm an okay dad every once in a while. Right, I tell my things, that I tell myself I am, but every once in a while, like Logan's great about that. Logan's always encouraging, you know, and Kiki she can be, but Kiki's kind of wired, a little more like me, so she's not always the most encouraging, but when she is, it's really, really great. But my wife she's so supportive and she's so encouraging and she's so motivated and I'm so motivated by her, even if she didn't say anything. I'm still motivated by her and by my kids because of the life I want to provide for them, things I want to be able to do with them and experience with them and for them. That wakes me up every day, motivated to go. Guess what. I'm still dealing with the same political bullshit. I'm still dealing with the same economy. I'm still dealing with the same employee issues. I'm still dealing with the same dramatic ass people on social media. I'm still dealing with all that too. No one's insulated from it. How do you deal with it? What are you listening to the most? Change your group up. Change the amount of people. Who's influencing you.
Speaker 1:
If you're hanging around with 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 12, 20, 30, 40, 50, 100 terrible shit attitude people who are nonstop bitching and complaining about stuff. Guess what? You're going to be the next one. If you're not already, you're going to be the next one. To the flip of that, though, if you associate yourself with people with great attitudes, people who are focused on improving themselves, people who are focused on winning, guess what you'll become.
Speaker 1:
The same way, if you're broke right now and you don't want to be broke, figure out a way to stop hanging out with broke people, because if you get around enough people who aren't broke, the odds are soon enough you won't be broke either. So don't bitch about being broke and all you do is hang out with people who talk about being broke. Stop taking money advice from people who are broke. Stop taking relationship advice from people leaving their sixth marriage. What are we doing? You control all this stuff. You control it, winning or losing.
Speaker 1:
People are all dealing with the same shit Big shit, those big overarching problems. Everybody's got the same ones, and then everybody's got their own individual shit that they're dealing with. What's your attitude towards it? How are you responding towards it? Because if your attitude sucks, if your attitude's terrible, I can assure you your conversations are terrible. You're out there trying to build your business. My salespeople I'm talking to now. You're not selling shit with a bad attitude like that.
Speaker 1:
This is a market that is 100% built on relationship selling, relationship selling. They got to feel like they know you. They got to feel like they can trust you and they need to like you. If you got a shit attitude and it's coming out of your personality, you're not making no sales. I tell my sales team all the time man, whatever's going on in life, you got to check it at the door, because if you bring it in here, you can't communicate effectively with these prospects. You're not going to be tuned in to hear their needs so that you can actually offer a genuine solution to them. So how are you responding? How are you dealing with these things? You have to discipline yourself to separate. You got to discipline yourself to build up such a confidence and a lack of tolerance for the BS that it doesn't even impact you anymore, because you don't allow it to have a presence in your day-to-day life, because it's all there.
Speaker 1:
And today we're either going to hear bullshit or we're going to hear good things. Know what happens today. When I hear bullshit, turning it off, I'm moving on, I'm scrolling by it, I'm deleting the email, I'm sending it to somebody else to deal with, because it's not my bullshit to deal with Other people's drama, theatrics and bullshit. It's not yours either. Stop chasing it online and following it on social media. Oh my gosh, do you see this? Oh my gosh, do you see that? What does it serve? What does it serve? Some shit's funny and now there's an entertainment value. I'm okay with that.
Speaker 1:
But if over 5% of your conversations are oh, did you see this? You hear that? Did you stop it? Stop it. Really, it shouldn't be any of your your life about that crap, but you got to stop because it's not serving you well? Is your attitude serving you well? Is the energy you put out to others serving you well? If all you ever focus on is doom and gloom, I can promise you it's not. Shit's gonna be there regardless. Why not tighten up? Focus on your own stuff. Why not tighten up a little bit of Tighten up? Figure out how to improve yourself to where you can get beyond the bullshit. There's your title Logan. Beyond the bullshit BTV.
Speaker 2:
Like it, well done, put it on a t-shirt. Put it on a t-shirt.
Speaker 1:
So figure that out. If you're listening to this, I get it. Shit happens doesn't mean it has to be a bad time. Doesn't mean it has to be a bad time if you're not where you want to be. Every once in a while you do got to look back and see how far you've come. Well, I can't get to where I want to be because of this. Okay, how about just take a second look back to be like damn, I'm glad I'm not in that spot anymore. Damn, I'm so much closer to where I'm trying to get than where I was one, two, three, four, five years ago.
Speaker 1:
Look at what we've done. Look how far we've gotten. We're getting there. We're doing the work. It's not I'll never get where I want to be Dumbass.
Speaker 1:
You don't deserve to be there yet. There's work to do. You deserve to be exactly where you are. It's a product of your efforts, your attitude, your relationships and your focus and your discipline. You're just in the process. Stop worrying about where you're at or where you're not at. Be excited about where you are and know it's just another step. When you look back next year and you look back two years from now, you'll be looking back and you'll see this spot and you're like that was a time, yeah. Or two years from now, you're going to look back and you're going to look down and you're in the same exact spot and that's a hundred percent up to you. That's got jack shit to do with economy, political climate or other people. We control and choose everything as far as our response goes and our efforts. So focus on yours, starting right now. Focus on yours. Appreciate y'all listening. Hopefully this is a cool experience on video for the folks watching and we're going to catch you next time.
